Tuesday 22 January 2008


Yesterday my husband had his third biopsy in as many months. The wait for a definitive answer and with it a treatment plan is very debilitating. It now appears that the hoped for “best case scenario” i.e. no treatment following the removal of a tumour before Christmas is not to be. Our GP believes that because he is still getting severe symptoms such as pain, exhaustion, nausea, lack of appetite, agitation, yellow tinged skin etc. etc. the indications are that cancer is still present.

He stressed that it is very important to define exactly what is happening before starting treatment but if Davy's present state of health is anything to go by it is his opinion that he will need chemo and possibly surgery.

BUT, he said the upside is that the oncologist who will be handling this treatment is one of the finest in the Country, he is talking about affecting a cure and at this moment in time everything is pointing to the fact that the cancer is still contained within the bladder.

So, that's how things are at the moment. One thing that this has taught us is that illness does not change a personality. As my esteemed colleague put it so succinctly - once a bastard, always a bastard! And we say this in all sincerity, with much, much love and a great deal of humour. I should point out though, that most times the bastard is me!


Anonymous said...

Hells bells. I'm just sending my love and best wishes to you both.

Crystal xx

Maggie May said...

I am new to this blogging stuff but have read your posts & have you on my list. I feel an empathy because my husband is also going through a similar thing. With very best wishes that all goes well.

A Mother's Place is in the Wrong said...

All good wishes and thoughts go with you both. It's a difficult time, and you need all the positive energy you can muster.
Regards,Margot xx

www.retiredandcrazy.com said...

Thanks for you good wishes Crystal.

www.retiredandcrazy.com said...

Hi Maggie May, I've read your blog and love it. You sound like a gutsy lady and I offer you and your husband my good wishes. Ann xx

www.retiredandcrazy.com said...

Yes Margot, positive energy sounds good right now. Thank you so much for your support in this regard.

Casdok said...

A very difficult time for you both.
More positive thoughts coming your way.

Anonymous said...

be positive, keep the energy level up and you will get through this
My very best wishes and vibes for you both
VM xx

laurie said...

ah, geez, i am SO sorry to read this. cancer...fucking cancer.

but if it's contained, thta's excellent news. bladder cancer is curable.

and i have a friend--a miracle man--who has lived with incurable pancreatic cancer for four years now. it's amazing what they can do.

absolute best of luck to you both.

www.retiredandcrazy.com said...

Thank you all so much. I know that life sounds grim for us right now, but we really will be OK. Love you all.

Anonymous said...

thoughts and positive vibes, through the ether and down the high octane technology I enjoy (even if I can't get a sodding capuccino).